To continually improve yourself, you must continually locate the ways you are broken. A focus on improving the self usually first requires finding problems with the self. ^{1 2}

Misdirected self-help turns you into a self-obsessed masturbatory ouroboros (SOMO)

You can spend your whole life preparing for, instead of playing, the game of life. But why would anyone, including yours truly, succumb to this? Subconsciously, it spares you from the messiest but most rewarding game of all: human interaction.

The goal is to build and improve my relationships. The sooner you get on the real field with real players, the sooner you can get to playing soccer and engaging with life.

There is no perfect escape from suffering. It doesn’t exist. But there is a way to find your long-sought unclenching, and it lies in cultivating your skill of acceptance as much as that of improvement.

For our purposes, the meat, the whole point of the hamburger, is that middle layer: relationships. That is the center of life. The heartbeat. As luck would have it, when you improve the heartbeat, it also feeds everything else.